The way Alan treats Marianne in this scene isn’t glaringly abusive, but an ominous tension bubbles under the surface of their interaction. When, for example, he forces the phone on her, he jams it into her chest, thus hinting at his willingness to use physical force to get her to listen to him. Their exchange doesn’t reach a point of pronounced violence, but it’s implied that it most likely would if their mother didn’t come home. And yet, even Marianne’s mother doesn’t support her or protect her from harm. In a way, then, Marianne is tragically accustomed to people not caring about her feelings or her well-being, so Connell’s insensitivity simply fits into a larger pattern in her life.