Dreams from My Father

by

Barack Obama

Dreams from My Father: Chapter 16 Summary & Analysis

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Bernard appears on Auma’s doorstep so he can play basketball with Barack. He teases Barack about reading and scaring away women and looks doubtful when Barack says they’ll run to the courts. Bernard has to walk after a quarter mile. As they shoot, Barack thinks of how generous Bernard has been. He’s sweet and patient, but Barack thinks that he’s old enough to be more independent and more driven. Bernard announces that in America, everyone has a car and a phone. He says it’ll be easy to find work there and that he’ll come work for Barack’s business (a business that doesn’t exist). Barack pictures the basketball courts in the U.S. Some of them are dangerous and others are idyllic. Later, they get ice cream and Barack tells Bernard that he needs to set goals and follow through, but he thinks his words must sound hollow.
Barack may have looked at Africa as an idea and the answer to all his questions and problems, but Bernard’s statements about how things are in the United States make it clear that Bernard is doing the same thing with his ideas about the United States. Barack begins to realize that the grass is always greener on the other side. Given that Barack is learning so much about Kenya, however, it seems likely he’ll discover that no place is actually better than the other.
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Barack wonders what family is. It might be a genetic chain, a social construct, or a group of shared memories. He says that in any case, he used to draw circles around himself to delineate family, friends, colleagues, and finally race and humanity. In Africa, though, this doesn’t work. He meets people everywhere who are thrilled to see the Old Man’s son. Family members go out of their way to feed and spend time with him. Barack embraces this at first; it confirms what he knows about the communal culture of Africa. But as days go on, Barack thinks more about what Auma noted about Barack’s good fortune and his perceived responsibility to the family. The situation in Nairobi is tough and most young people are unemployed. Barack knows he has responsibilities, but the politics he turned to in the U.S. won’t help his family.
Being in Kenya challenges Barack’s understanding of what family really means. Here, where family seems to literally exist everywhere, Barack finds that he needs to expand his notion of who belongs in his world. As he considers his responsibility to all of these people, though, Barack begins to recognize that he doesn’t know how to effectively help them. He may understand that they need money and perceive that many believe he has money to give, but he seems to imply that he doesn’t have enough to actually be useful—and, furthermore, that his attempts to make change in the United States are completely irrelevant to helping his family. This recognition is disheartening.
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Barack begins to see the importance of money and half wishes he were the wealthy corporate lawyer his Kenyan family thinks he is. He notices how Auma tries to live up to expectations by saving money to fix up Granny’s house in Alego and purchase land outside Nairobi, but her schedule takes her away from the family and hurts their feelings. Barack realizes that Black people’s success always threatens to abandon other Black people. He is unsettled in part because he sees the same patterns play out in America and in Africa. No one here can tell him how to be responsible to his family or to humanity at large.
At this moment, Barack begins to see without a doubt that he can’t escape systems of power or patterns of hurt just by traveling to a different continent. As different as Nairobi and Chicago might be, Barack is still forced to contend with the fact that he’s moving through the world as a Black man, something that disadvantages him. As he becomes more successful, moreover, he senses that he’ll be leaving others behind and that there are consequences to doing that.
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Zeituni takes Barack to visit Aunt Sarah. Auma drives them most of the way, as her mechanic lives nearby. They drive to Mathare, a valley that houses a vast shantytown. Zeituni and Barack walk down alone. They enter a crude apartment building and knock on an upper-story apartment door. Sarah only speaks Luo. She wants to know why Barack took so long to visit, suggests his hosts are telling him lies, and she says that he should be caring for her. Then, in English, Sarah spits that Akumu, not Granny, is Barack’s grandmother and asks why he isn’t helping them. Zeituni and Sarah argue in Luo and Zeituni stands to leave. When Sarah asks, Barack gives her money.
Aunt Sarah clearly has very definite ideas about who’s family and who isn’t—and to her, family members who are related by blood are the only ones worthy of Barack’s care and attention. This would mean that Barack shouldn’t, for instance, care about Kezia, Aunt Jane, or Bernard. But Barack also sees that those other family members have showed him kindness and are helping him navigate this new world, so they matter too, even if they’re not entirely blood relatives.
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Zeituni drags Barack outside when Sarah invites him to stay longer. After a few minutes, Barack asks Zeituni what she and Sarah were fighting about. Zeituni sighs that she doesn’t know the whole truth, but Sarah was always closer to her real mother, Akumu, while the Old Man adopted Granny as his mother after Akumu left. She says that Sarah and the Old Man were a lot alike as kids—Sarah was independent and left several husbands who were lazy or tried to abuse her. She eventually decided that the Old Man should support her, which is why she dislikes Kezia. Zeituni explains that while the Old Man was married to Ruth and visiting Kezia—who was technically still his wife—Kezia was also seeing another man. The Old Man accepted Abo and Bernard as his sons, but there’s nothing to prove their paternity.
By explaining the rift between Sarah and the rest of the family, Zeituni makes it clear just how important it is in Luo culture to remain loyal to one’s blood family and clearly delineate who that is. It’s also important to pay attention to the fact that the rift began when Akumu left her children. The mistakes or hurts of a generation before, in this sense, still affect the present—it’s still impossible to fully escape one’s past. However, it’s also worth noting that it seems like Sarah hasn’t had an easy life; she certainly deserves compassion and help of some sort.
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Barack looks around and wonders if he should feel differently about Bernard. Zeituni says that now Barack sees how the Old Man suffered. The Old Man’s heart, she says, was too big. He gave to everyone who asked and took Zeituni in when she left her husband. Zeituni says that when the Old Man’s luck changed, everyone forgot him. They abandoned him, and the Old Man never held that against them. Indeed, later when he was doing well again, he started helping again and told Zeituni that those men might need things more than he does. Zeituni warns Barack to not judge the Old Man too harshly, but to learn from his example: draw the line and decide who’s family.
It’s perhaps easy to say that Barack shouldn’t feel any differently about Bernard. The Old Man accepted Bernard as a son, after all, and Aunt Jane raised him as an Obama. In this moment, then, Barack begins to realize that blood ties aren’t everything—there’s also the question of who takes the time to care for others. Still, though, Zeituni says it’s important to decide who constitutes family and what Barack’s responsibilities to those people are. That will make his life easier.
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Barack remembers speaking to a woman in Chicago. As he listened to the woman’s stories, he eventually realized that two of the sisters she spoke of died at birth—but she spoke about them like they grew up with her. Barack begins to feel like that as people on the street mistake him for David. Auma explains that she hasn’t seen Ruth and Mark since David’s funeral. After Ruth and the Old Man’s bitter divorce, Ruth married a Tanzanian, changed her sons’ last names, and sent them to an international school. Mark went along with it, but David insisted he was an Obama and ran away. Roy found David and David soon became the family favorite. He died while living with Roy. It broke Roy’s heart, but Ruth believes the Obamas corrupted David.
Recall that David died several years ago while Barack was still working in New York. Learning David’s story introduces Barack to yet more family intrigue. He begins to see that his family isn’t even as simple as his father’s wives and his children with them—indeed, Ruth complicated things by trying to distance her sons from the Obamas as much as possible. David’s choice to return home, however, points to the idea that it’s damaging to try to give up on one’s heritage and one’s family—especially when one’s family is as supportive as the Obamas were to David.
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A few days later, Auma receives an invitation for her and Barack to have lunch with Ruth and Mark. Barack insists they go. Ruth lives in an expensive neighborhood that reminds Barack of some of the wealthy Hawaiian neighborhoods. Those houses were pretty, but they always seemed lonely. Ruth says she wants to see how the other Obama son turned out and asks why Ann didn’t change Barack’s last name when she remarried. Barack asks Mark about his program at Stanford. Ruth alternates between talking about Mark’s accomplishments and the Old Man’s failures. She makes Mark show Barack their photo album and old photos of the Old Man. Barack realizes that these photos reflect what might have been had the Old Man taken him and Ann to Kenya. He realizes that Ruth isn’t over the Old Man.
Notice that when Ruth refers to Barack as “the other Obama son,” she essentially ignores the Old Man’s other four sons (Roy, Abo, Bernard, and little George), in addition to ignoring Auma. By ignoring them, she makes it clear that she, like Sarah, sees few of the Old Man’s children as legitimate and worthy of attention or any of the estate. But in realizing that Ruth isn’t yet over the Old Man, Barack also sees that this is far more complicated than he initially thought. Everyone in the family is, in their own way, still grieving the Old Man’s loss, and that seems to be coming out in exclusionary practices.
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A week later, Barack invites Mark to lunch. Mark is more relaxed and says he’s glad to be back in Kenya with family, but he doesn’t ever want to live here. He says it’d be silly to be a physicist here and flatly says he’s cutting himself off from his roots. He resents the Old Man for being a drunk who didn’t care about his wife and children. Mark says he loves Shakespeare and Beethoven, but he’s not afraid to be half Kenyan. He begins to say something about acknowledging who he really is, but he says it’s too stressful. Barack pays the bill and they promise to write, both knowing they have no intention of doing so. When Barack tells Auma about this, she laughs—Ruth has the documents to prove that the Old Man is Mark’s father, unlike any of the Old Man’s other wives.
Mark is the only son who knows, without a doubt, who he is and who his father is—so it’s safer and easier for him to reject his ancestry. (Though it’s also worth noting that Barack, as another son with proof of his parentage, also shares this distinction.) Barack begins to see that, for Mark, it’s exactly because he has this security that he feels comfortable rejecting Kenya and the Obama side of the family. That’s not to say it isn’t stressful, but Mark seems to tell himself a story that it’s better to reject the Obamas than get caught up in the messy intricacies of the family.
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